Knafo, A. and Assor, A., University of the Negev, Israel
It has been argued that the congruence with significant others' expectations enhances individuals' wellbeing of. In three studies we test this proposition, and address the roles of family contexts and self- determination. Study 1 assesses the relationship between subjective wellbeing and value congruence with parents. 47 university students (mean age=23) and 43 adolescents (mean age=16.5) reported their own values and the values they ascribed to their parents, and parents reported their socialization values. Actual value congruence was measured by correlating parents' values with their own child's values, within each dyad, and perceived congruence by correlating children's values with perceived parents' values. Perceived congruence correlated positively with wellbeing among adolescents, as did actual congruence in both samples. Study 2 addresses the impact of contexts on the congruence-wellbeing relationship. 36 young married and unmarried men (mean age=27) participated. We hypothesized that for unmarried men congruence with mothers is more, and congruence with romantic partners is less, relevant to wellbeing. Results largely supported the hypothesis. Study 3 asks from a self-determination position whether the effect of congruence depends on value choice. Parents' autonomy support, combined with youth identification with parents was regarded as conducive to an internalized acceptance of parental values, whereas the opposite was considered conducive to an externally-oriented acceptance. 62 students (mean age=23) participated. Results supported the hypothesis: when autonomy support and identification were low, perceived congruence served to reduce negative feelings, and when they were high, it increased positive feelings.